“Kind words do not cost much. Yet they accomplish much.”
– Blaise Pascal
Sometimes we need to stop, take a breath and speak words that are good, wholesome and meaningful…especially to our children. Our words and actions toward them are the foundation in which their little personalities are formed. I pray that we take time to speak into our children’s lives with love, Godly discipline and wisdom which is all guided by His Holy Spirit living inside us.
“I lift up my eyes to the mountains—where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth.”
I’m so tired sometimes…like literally exhausted. Unfortunately, I don’t always handle that tiredness well. My patience threshold gets a little shorter, there is no desire to play one more game and I really just want to order pizza for dinner…but I do it! I listen to every single detail of a really long story; I play one more game of Jenga and I make a nice dinner. I can’t “let my family down” or be a “bad mom.”
But guess what? No mom can be that on it all the time and have that much strength and energy. And guess what else? We shouldn’t feel guilty about it. And most importantly of all…it’s ok for our kids to see that vulnerability and that weakness! In that vulnerability and weakness, they will see our reliance on God. They will see that we aren’t perfect and they don’t have to be either.
I ran across this great article by September McCarthy from Proverbs 31 Ministries entitled, “A Tired Mom Can Be The Most Influential.” It really hit home how important it is for our children to see our need for help and where we go to get it. So go lie down on your bed, read this article and rest. It may be in the middle of the afternoon but that’s ok! Your kids will be fine! Take that break! Read all of Psalm 121 also…such a good reminder!
When my youngest was a lot younger he had a problem with stretching the truth. He was really good at it too. He could look you in the eye and lie point-blank. I couldn’t believe it. I can’t stand kids who lie or anyone at any age for that matter but my child, No Way! This was not something I could let go of.
So…I bought a Pinocchio nose. Not only did I buy it, but I let the little liar pick it out himself. He was in shock. We went on Amazon and it took him quite a while to pick one out. I think he thought if he stalled long enough I would change my mind. He even tried to use the excuse that he couldn’t find one that matched his skin color! He was 4 years old!!! So the dreaded day came and unlike opening a Christmas or birthday present he opened this one very slow. I told him that when he lied he had to wear the nose for one whole day. Whether he was going to school, church, or errands he would have to wear the nose!
Did this work? Mostly. Although his favorite thing to do was to tattle on his siblings when he thought they were not telling the truth. He wanted to see someone else wearing the Pinocchio nose. His tattling issue was a battle for another day!
Was this a mom win? I’m still working that one out. He still tries to stretch the truth but when he is confronted with the nose he quickly comes clean. I’m not sure how long this is going to work so I’m very glad I came across this article by Janet Denison “Decide To Discipline: Young Children.” Now that my son is older and can truly understand the consequences of lying I will be able to put away the Pinocchio nose or at least hang it on the wall as a reminder of sin and it’s consequences.
Now I don’t want to stereotype but I’ve heard that sometimes men find it hard to ask for help. I also have a hunch that men probably feel as inadequate as we do when it comes to parenting. This is not a good combination! But I am here to help whether it’s asked for it or not! HA! Here is an article by a dad that is sure to be relatable!
Also, another great way to gain insight into Christian dad parenting is listening to podcasts. There are so many great ones out there by Christian dads. Podcasts are so easy to listen to because you can do it anywhere…car, office, working out, etc. and no one needs to know you are doing it! Just Google “Christian Parenting Dad Podcasts” and you will get a whole variety of topics and speakers.