Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!
– Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
When my first child was born I pretty much would have been at the doctor every day if I hadn’t had my sister to calm me down. There was absolutely nothing wrong with my daughter but there were a bunch of “firsts” that I didn’t know were normal or not. I literally called her at least 5 times a day. My sister has four kids and is the most laid back mama ever! She probably wasn’t like that when she had her first child but along the motherhood way, she’s had the wisdom to find mentors and good mom friends to come around her.
They let her know that whatever was happening with her children was ok and she would get through it. I’m so glad I have her (now I only call her 3 times a day) because let me tell you your kids will do things that are so weird you don’t even want to share with others but once you get over the shock…you do share and find out those things are quite normal! Or at least you are not alone. I’ve also come to realize in this journey of motherhood that all phases of our children’s lives have good and bad.
That “terrible 2s” phase rears its ugly head around 6 then again at 10 and for sure 13! We need women in our lives who relieve the mom guilt and help us navigate through the rough waters and cheer us on when there is smooth sailing.
This article “Don’t Do Motherhood Alone” by Family Life Ministries is so great! We all need someone to talk to and not feel judged or paranoid. Someone we can share our goods and bads. Someone who will gently call us out and guide us back into reality.